Shift Happens! 3 Questions to Get You Back on Track!

By this point in the New Year, there are many people who begin to doubt their ability to create amazing life changes. As we all know, change is a challenge. When we set the intention to change, especially if we are sincere and the change is a worthwhile endeavor, we are also setting in motion the process to heal and clear away any thoughts, beliefs, habits, memories, experiences, and energy that keeps us "stuck" in the past. So, as the saying goes, "When you pick up one end of the stick, you pick up the other end too."

That said, how we approach these nagging doubts or glaring fear makes all the difference in the world. Just knowing that they will surface brings a sense of relief! In working as a Life Coach, I have observed time and time again with clients from all walks of life that the biggest hurdle to overcome is the belief that once we enter the process of change with a sincere heart that it "should" be smooth sailing; and if we hit a rough patch, that "shouldn't" be happening, leaving the client to feel discouraged and ready to throw in the towel. In fact, quite honestly, it is at this point that I need to reassure my coaching clients that this is indeed "normal" and is in no way an indication that they are "defective." (The underlying fear of being "defective" is pervasive and I will address that in another article.)

So, here are the 3 questions you can use on your own or with the support of a Life Coach to get back on track...

1) What's RIGHT with me?
Yep, when we start to flounder, it is absolutely essential to start with this question. When our shadow side is looming large, we tend to focus on the negative and sometimes to the exclusion of the positive. Crazy, but true, this is the fastest way to lose momentum and start that downward spiral that leaves us feeling lower than before we set out on our new path. The longer this is allowed to continue, the lower we go, and the harder it is to make our way out and back up. Don't go there. This is the question that will keep you going in your new direction and refresh your confidence.

2) How can I take responsibility for my life and what is happening?
Clearly, this is the polar opposite of the defensive stance which seeks to blame other people and circumstances when the going gets tough. This is the question that is essential for you to retain your sense of appropriate personal power. If your energy and attention are focused on blame, you direct your life-force outward where you indeed have no control. If you keep the focus on what you can do and how you can choose to respond, you will stay within your circle of influence. This will allow you to use your energy in a truly productive manner that is far more likely to hasten your progress and help you to feel more peaceful in the process as well.

3) How can I transform this situation for my Highest Good?
All of our experiences provide us with an opportunity to learn and grow. Even those experiences that do not turn out the way we think they "should" afford us the chance to choose to become better, not bitter. If you look back on your own life from this perspective, perhaps you will be able to view some of those experiences from a higher perspective. There are so many expressions for this, such as "looking for the gift in the garbage" that point to this Truth, however, we can only come to Know it for ourselves if we are willing to open our hearts to that possibility and Trust in the Ultimate Good. I love the analogy that life is like a tapestry - all the threads of experience are ultimately woven together to create a beautiful work of art - but with our limited perspective, we are viewing it from the opposite side. Somehow, at a very deep level, that resonates in my heart and soul and I choose Faith in the process. I hope you will too.

Shift Happens!

As always, I trust these words will find their way to the right people, at the perfect time, and have the intended impact on the lives and hearts of my readers for the best and highest good.

With Blessings, Love, and Light,
Nurture U

Creating an Integrative Energy Shift for the New Year - Part 2: The "Triple A" Avenue of Success

As we are now in the first full week of the New Year, I hope that you are enjoying the opportunity to create the Integrative Energy Shift that I wrote of in the previous post. The 4 P's of the Paradigm provide the framework and foundation for you to enjoy a New Year and a New You. In this post, we will explore the more active aspect of the 3 A's that will help to pave the avenue to success.

A-1  Attitude
It has been said that attitude is an even more powerful aspect of success than aptitude. This is clearly evident time and time again as the cream continues to rise to the top consistently and predictably.
The beauty of this quality is that our attitude is always totally within our control. As we traverse the road of life, there are indeed many detours. There will inevitably be delays, seemingly wrong turns, and plenty of unexpected and even unwanted events along the way. The fact is (and sometimes we would rather not admit it) that so many of these things will indeed be out of our control in spite of planning for progress to the best of our ability. Ironically, it is in the midst of these challenges that we can awaken and step more fully into our power as we choose our responses rather than silently acquiescing to living in the bondage of simply reacting. What was once our Achilles heel can be transformed into a confident foothold and a step in the right direction. Yep - All that from the realization that no matter what, we get to choose our attitude.

A-2 Action
Of course, nothing is going to happen until we happen to get going. While every marvelous manifestation starts as a seed that is firmly planted in good soil, we want to be good stewards as we commit to tending the seeds. Once we have a firm foundation for change and a winning attitude, we need to take inspired action to keep the energy moving. Why "inspired action"? Because even as we set about to bring our dreams to fruition, we need to continue to check in with ourselves to ensure that we are acting for the highest good. Otherwise, action can become an ego-driven, exhausting effort that leads us down the wrong road. Action driven by ego leads to burn-out rather than the joy and fulfillment that can be ours from the merging of head and heart in purposeful productivity. Trust me, joy is a highly sensitive and reliable instrument for gauging success. Don't fall prey to the belief that life must be a perpetual race and struggle to the finish line. Not every moment will be spent in Nirvana, but when you choose to act from inspiration, things will change. You may be doing the same job, the same activities, and be around the same people, but if you truly connect with the deeper motivation for why you do what you do, it changes the energy you bring into action and transforms your experience. I dare you to head for more joy. You can thank me later.

A-3 Affirmation
Sometimes I feel that the subject of "doing affirmations" has been so distorted by those purporting to help you to radically change your life in 3-7 easy steps or days or whatever, that I almost hesitated to include this important information. However, we do need to use the power of affirmation on the road to success. We need to affirm not just the new creation we are in the process of becoming, we need to affirm ourselves in the process. This can get a little tricky as I have learned firsthand coaching so many people to positive change. Again, in order to effect truly lasting change, we need to once again engage both the head and the heart to ensure we are acting in our own best interest. By that, I do not mean that we act in the ways of the world to protect ourselves, to strive to arrive at bigger, better, faster, and more, more, more. I mean that we are affirming at all times what we know to be the Truth of what is in our best interest from the perspective of our souls. (By soul, I am referring to the holistic, transpersonal nature that comprises your entire being yet goes beyond it as well. The soul is a term hard to define in the context of this post. Suffice it to say it is the Real You.) We need to affirm what we know to be a higher level of self-realization. We need to Trust that as we act for our highest good, that it is for the highest good of all those around us as well. When we act for our highest good, we are being of service by radiating who we are just by being who we are and this is the impact we have on the universe. This is our legacy. So, affirm who you ARE in the process of change and what you are willing to do, to choose, to release, to be. This may be an area you want additional support for in order to choose the affirmations that resonate the energy of change, yet does not create a conflict. Yes, this is tricky, but I am more than happy to act as your guide and assist. Be open to seeking support as needed. (Don't be stubborn on this one, ya hear me? Seeking support is not a sign of weakness. It is a commitment to strengthen all that you have. Believe me, I know!)

Well, congratulations! If you read Part 1 and Part 2 of Creating an Integrative Energy Shift in the New Year, you have given yourself a valuable gift. You are now empowered with the complete picture of the Nurture U perspective on how to condition your mind, body, and spirit for success in this New Year! As someone who has used this approach with countless clients, it is my privilege to share it with you. It brings me great joy just knowing that we have connected through the power of the written word. I wish you the very best as you continue the journey.

As always, I trust that these words will find their way to the right people, at the perfect time, and have the intended impact on the lives and hearts of my readers for the best and highest good.

With Blessings, Love, and Light,
Nurture U