As a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), I have come to embrace this trait as my greatest gift and it is my hope that after reading this, you will learn to do the same whether for your own sake, or for the highest good of someone in your life.
You see, the HSP trait has been grossly misunderstood. In fact, the inclusion of the word "sensitive" is what leads to the misperception of what is actually a super power once you know how to harness its energy! So, the first thing we need to realize is what it means to be sensitive. While I do not discount the fact that as HSPs, we do feel things deeply, that is only one aspect of being sensitive. We are certainly not a group of individuals roaming through life with tears in our eyes or shying away from challenges. No, we can be found among the movers and the shakers who are committed to taking our lives to the next level and supporting others in doing the same. (Some of us even go so far as to feel like a badass when our confidence is up and we are out there making things happen.)
So, let's explore the definition of sensitive, courtesy of Oxford Languages online. One of the definitions that works for me is "quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences." That reminds me of an instrument that is more adept at picking up what it is designed to as opposed to another instrument that is less sensitive and therefore less able to do what it is supposed to do. Another definition that fits is "having or displaying a quick and delicate appreciation of others' feelings." Yep. Those definitions are spot on when it comes to the HSP trait.
So, what's the problem? People latch on to all of the negative associations with the word sensitive. For example, some definitions include descriptors such as easily upset and distressed, unstable, and needing protection. You see? Same word - totally different connotations.
That's why Willow McIntosh, a global sensitivity expert, came up with a whole new term for the trait: SENSORY INTELLIGENCE. That certainly captures not only the beautiful essence of the trait, but also conveys the power - and that's what it takes to be sensitive, strong, and successful. Recognize the trait for what it is and proceed accordingly!
Are there challenges that come with this trait? Yes, there are but they are absolutely surmountable BUT only if someone acknowledges and accepts being among the 15-20% of the population that has this gift. If you resonate with being an HSP but are put off, or worse yet, scared off (as I once was) by this trait, then you won't take the steps necessary to accommodate your needs and accentuate your abilities. This causes a whole host of negative effects including a great deal of unnecessary stress and wasted potential. It's truly a travesty to allow this to occur!
So, what now? I highly recommend that you learn all you can about this trait to become empowered. Even if you feel like you are barely surviving, trust me, you can get to the point of thriving. Why do I feel so strongly about this? Because I've "been there, done that" and now I have the knowledge, professional training, and the personal experience to help you to do the same.
You CAN be sensitive, strong, and successful. Yes, you can and I can help. Why wait?? Get in touch with me and we can discuss how Nurture U Life Coaching can help you take your wellness and your life to the next level!
I can't wait for the chance to connect!
Mary Ellen
